Sometimes, those emotions by themselves are easier to deal with, but disappointment can leave me at a loose end. I might not be sure whether I should feel angry, or just impatiently wish that I would hurry up and get over it. One of the hardest things to do in a world where everything is immediate—we are all under external pressure, and time is a scarce resource—is to just let yourself experience a feeling.
For instance, when your favorite sports team loses the championship game as ours did recently in Western Australiait can be a bitter blow indeed. With this kind of disappointment — and even more serious ones — I suggest that there are five steps to follow: Take a big picture perspective 5.
This step would be No.
You need to experience your emotional reaction to the event. It may be a few hours or a few days before you reach a calmer state of mind; when you do, only then should you act. So may of us are all too ready to attribute negative life events to our own personal failings.
The reality is, life will simply do what it does, whether you are there or not. In this instance, you happened to be present during the event, which actually had nothing to do with you. When you take something personally, it unnecessarily narrows your point of view and prevents the acquiring of wisdom, which is an ability to see life from a deeper, broader, more meaningful perspective.
You may eventually discover more about yourself and life but not within the time limits you set. Remember just to wait. When it comes to insight, impatience is not your friend.
When you take a good look at your expectations, you will be getting closer to a true understanding of the event. Perhaps your expectations were unrealistic. Perhaps they could be adjusted a little to cope with this new reality. Either way, now is the time to question whether these expectations actually serve you.
Take a big picture perspective. The ability to self-reflect is the essence of good mental health. Take some time to explore what is happening for you around this event — what it means to you and what it has taught you about life. Talking to a therapist, someone who really listens and has your best interests at heart, is useful.
It can help you recover, reevaluate, gain insight and clarity that will surprise you and make you feel better.
Try again or try another tack. Alternatively, the wisest course of action might be to try another tack.Over the last few days, I’ve been dealing with a deep personal disappointment, one that I’d rather not discuss in public (don’t worry, it’s not relevant to The Simple Dollar – it’s wholly personal).
Students explore the concepts of resilience, bad things happen to everyone, bad feelings/pain will pass, how to seek comfort, dealing with disappointment and lessons learnt from difficult experiences. If possible, tell about a more personal disappointment, i.e., the early death of a parent, or an event that changed your academic or career goals.
Believe it or not, it is also okay to not have had a "greatest" disappointment. How to Deal with Disappointment: The Complete Guide Step 1: Put yourself in a better mental state.
Whenever you experience disappointment, you are pulled down to a lower state of consciousness, where your thoughts are predominantly rooted in fear, sadness, grief, or apathy.
Constructively dealing with disappointment can be a self-curative process that can contribute to personal growth and make for greater resilience.
Take Winston Churchill as an example.
A Crash Course on Everything you need to know about Personal Recount/Reflective Essay Writing. You have to deal with Personal Recount. You have to end with a Reflection. You need deeper thought and analysis. If you are still writing like a Primary School kid.